The fly on the wall. The girl who people may know of but know little about. She’s smart to stay out of the social scene. The guys who are always dancing in the middle and the girls right next to them will not make good friends. These observers know this and rather not get involved. The ones who have the rare ability to learn form other’s mistakes.
The problem with constantly learning from others is your own lack of experience. Without having your own stories to tell with your own feelings and emotions, nothing is going to be that relatable to you. And to find a connection with another person, there needs to be some level of identification. If you do not have any experience in any type of field, then you may be considered boring, uninteresting, shy and stuck up.
In no way am I saying to sleep with ten different guys, drink until you puke, no. But rather, allow yourself to try new things, to get involved in a club. Just going to the meetings will not be enough. Participate and be active in extracurricular activities. Find something to be passionate about, don’t be afraid to talk up in class. Be engaged in whatever social scene you’re in, it doesn’t have to be limited to parties.
Maybe the smallest thing (such as a smile) can win the favor of another. The first step is getting outside your comfort level and to scare yourself. At least once a day.